March 9, 2025
898: Detachment Is Freedom
Today, I am rocking out of Dr. Shaurice Mullins' book, "The Invincibility Code," specifically the power & spiritual tool of detachment.
By the end of this episode, I hope you'll look at your attachments to determine what's holding you back. (i.e. detach :)
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Transcript
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Today.
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I want to talk about.
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Detachment.
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And I got this idea from reading the invincibility code by Dr. Shaurice.
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Mullins.
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And there's a section in there.
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The power of detachment.
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And it seems kind of weird, like.
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Power and detachment.
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Really don't go hand in hand, like.
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When you detach from something you release, it's kind of a floating feeling, but contrary to what you may think about detachment.
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As we roll out with this episode.
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I think you're going to see that the attachments in your life.
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Or what's hindering your progress are what is some of the greatest sources of frustrations?
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Is because you're attached.
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When you should be detached.
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. Dr. Mullins writes the power of detachment is a spiritual tool.
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That can open us up.
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To boundless possibilities.
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I love that.
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You won't boundless possibilities in your life.
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Then you have to look at detachment.
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As a spiritual tool.
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I never thought about detachment.
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Being a spiritual tool.
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Because it's not some sort of mindset or strategy that you do.
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It's way deeper than that.
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Mullins writes that detachment.
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Can actually open you up to the mysterious plans of the universe.
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Without worrying about how things will turn out.
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I love that.
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It opened you up.
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To the mysterious plans of the universe.
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How many times have you tried to play God?
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How many times have you tried to play universe that you know, what's best in your own life?
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And you get so entrenched in these attachments.
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That you're just trying to jam an outcome.
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And Mullins says, when you look at detachment as a spiritual component, You release.
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You free yourself.
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From any certain expectation.
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An expectation will be a timeline, or specific outcome in a timeline.
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You release all of that and you open yourself up to.
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The mysterious plans of the universe.
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In short detachment's freedom.
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You want more freedom in your life?
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Dude.
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I, I can't tell you how many times I've said that, man.
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I just.
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I want more freedom.
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Detach.
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When I say freedom.
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This is going to create freedom in your mind.
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And your emotions.
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And your energy.
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Energy's key.
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You know, lately, I was like, I was thinking to myself, like, man, I just like the last couple of days just been like drained of energy and I don't know why.
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I mean just like drained.
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And when I'm reading this, I'm like, Well, let's take a look at the attachments that you have.
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And these attachments to the specific outcomes.
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I'm 51.
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Many times I burn.
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This emotional and physical currency.
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Trying to right the wrongs of my past.
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Trying to get things.
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Set straight.
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Right.
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And so I'm attached to all these things in the past.
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Sometimes I find myself where I'm just trying to swing for the fences all at once.
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And to Mullin's point.
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Detach from all of that.
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This is what's building up his mind clutter.
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In layering in these toxic emotions.
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And draining my energy.
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I mean, think about it in your own life.
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How many times have you burned yourself out?
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Trying to force something to happen.
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You pushed, you shoved you're stressed out.
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You blew up.
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You did all these things.
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And when we have those moments.
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We have to detach.
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And notice what the universe is saying.
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The universe is like, "Nope, not yet." You're not ready.
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So maybe it's a layer of protection.
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I've talked about that.
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Maybe it's a, it's a form of efficiency.
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That there are some things that you need to be more efficient at this level.
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Maybe this, what you think you won't.
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Is not.
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It is not what the universe has in plan has in store for you.
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Maybe you need collaboration, you become more and more siloed.
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And raised on that one become more and more siloed.
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And in this.
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World bubble yourself and you've locked out the world.
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And the universe is saying.
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Zoom out.
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Detach.
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Collaborate.
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What I really like about when I read this.
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Is it's more of a playful.
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Mindset.
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I take life very serious.
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But sometimes I just do things too seriously.
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And because I don't get a specific outcome.
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I get all butthurt about it.
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& kind of lash out.
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I'm learning that when you can detach.
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You let go of the need to control the outcome.
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There are things outside of your control.
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We have to recognize that and I get it, man.
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That's just how we're wired.
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We're wired.
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To try to control everything.
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Detach.
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And when you do so.
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You create the space.
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That's important.
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You create space.
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For bigger and better things to happen.
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, back to the book, detachment encourages resilience.
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In the face of challenges.
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Now, let me talk about resilience, what is resilience?
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It's the capacity.
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To simply recover quickly.
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That's all it is.
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This is what makes someone tough.
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Not because they don't fall down.
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It's just there refuse to stay down.
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They get back up.
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And they bounce back.
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And you look at people who have like, You know, some people have hit the wall moments and have splattered and other people, and they just never were the person they once were.
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or other people just have this uncanny knack to be able to just, they bounce.
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They hit hard.
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Life deals in my tough blow, but man, they were able to just spring back it's because they've developed that resilience.
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And though they may not recognize it as I'm saying this.
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It could be because they're detached.
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From specific outcomes.
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And timelines because there are other paths available, but you'll never see those pathways.
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If you're attached.
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To doing it your way.
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Your way is not the best way.
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And we've got to detach from that.
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We got to recognize that and we got to attach.
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So it's about developing that resilience, the capacity to recover quickly.
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I mean, if you had to think about, I think about with athletes.
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Athletes have what's called a, a short refractory period.
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Meaning.
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That they don't stay locked in the last blown play.
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They missed the bucket.
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Boom.
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They shortened the timeframe they're onto the next play.
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They lose a game.
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Boom.
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They're studying that game film, trying to figure out the disconnect in their back at it again.
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They just don't ruminate.
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Like we do.
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We got to be more of life athletes.
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You're an athlete in life.
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We've got to shorten this thing down, so we'll, you can shorten the refractory period and actually be more tough.
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You want that?
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If you detach.
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What's next.
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There's always next.
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You gotta recognize that.
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Now, let me put a pin in that real quick.
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Detachment.
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Is not about giving up on your dreams.
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I'm not saying you're just this paper bag in the wind.
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It's not about giving up on your dreams, your goals.
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Your desires?
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No.
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You should absolutely have those things.
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But detachment . Is releasing the rigidity of the timelines.
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And the need.
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For a specific outcome.
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Again, Your dreams, your desires, your goals are important.
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It should be a direction.
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But you detach from the specific timeline that you built in.
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You could put a pin in it and say, look, three months from now.
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I'd like to be here, but just course correct along the way.
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It may be shorter and maybe longer.
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What's the saying?
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People underestimate.
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What they can do in 10 years.
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And they overestimate.
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What they can do in 10 weeks.
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Sometimes I think when we get all just built up with frustration and stuff, And we're just trying to jam this thing through it's because you have these.
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Unrealistic.
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Timelines.
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Put pressure on yourself.
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Absolutely make things hard on yourself.
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Absolutely.
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You should.
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But that detachment.
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Releases you.
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Of the failure.
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It releases you of the doubt.
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It does.
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Sometimes man, I think we just put ourselves in these self-imposed prisons.
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Again, we're attached to these mistakes.
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And we're trying to fix them.
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We're clinging on to this narrow vision.
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Of how things are supposed to turn out.
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And when it doesn't happen.
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We feel like the world's picking on us.
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And then we're frustrated.
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We're drained.
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We're assholes to be around.
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See.
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Just analyze your attachments.
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And begin to.
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Unsnap.
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From these attachments, man.
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This mental and physical and emotional currency that you, these cables.
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That you have attached.
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To the specific outcomes.
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It timelines.
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Detached from them all pick a direction.
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Heading that direction.
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But maintain your curiosity.
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Your creativity, your communication confront the obstacles.
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you're going to be fine.
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And have that wonder and awe of the mysterious plans of the universe, which got for me, man.
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As big G that all the time, which God, former G. What you got.
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God.
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I like a play with it.
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What you got for back to the book.
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This is important.
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Detaching from our desires can free up mental energy kind of touched on that.
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But I think it's worth really emphasizing.
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How often do you feel like your brain is just running on empty?
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Like your energy is just like, there's nothing left in the tank.
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And you're so tired.
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You're so stressed.
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But you're so tired and stressed that even rest seems impossible.
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Right.
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You ever had those times where you're so stressed out.
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And you're like, bro, I just, I need the rest, man.
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I just need a long weekend and just rest.
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And then that doesn't even seem to work.
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It seemed like it made it worse.
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That's because all of your attachments.
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Have drained, your mental and emotional and physical energy.
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So when you detach., It's like clearing out a cluttered room.
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It's like deleting some of the old photos and videos.
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in your phone you're freeing up storage is what you need, man.
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We're just, we just keep adding more storage.
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We think we do, but the storage that, the stuff that you're just cramming in there.
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And these, you have, you have these rooms, rooms and layers and layers of attachments.
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Over the years now dude I'm not talking about the last six months.
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I'm talking about over the last course of your life.
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So you have all these things, man, and you're just cramming more and more in there.
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This is why.
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You seem to go absent-minded.
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This is why you seem to just blow up out of nowhere is why you're drained.
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It's attachments, man.
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Look, how.
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How difficult we make life.
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We do life is super simple.
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It's not easy, but it's simple.
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We should always keep it simple.
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So when you can begin to detach.
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And clear out some of this clutter it's like cleaning out your garage, cleaning out this clutter.
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This is where you're going to make room for the creativity.
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And innovation.
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And new opportunities that you didn't see before.
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You couldn't see those things before you couldn't be creative, you couldn't be more innovative.
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Because you had all this clutter, but when you begin to declutter, just detach from it all, man.
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And there's nothing physically you have to do just unclip.
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I just like that.
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Even mental picture that I have unclipped from these things.
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It's like being on the side of a mountain down one of those cables and your clip to it, man.
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Just.
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Unclip.
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You won't hit the cliffs.
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You're not, you're not going to hit.
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You're gonna be fine.
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I think Wayne Dyer put it so well.
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When you renounce all your attachments to the outcome.
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You will receive what you desire.
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That doesn't even sound right.
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That sounds ass backwards.
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Renounce all attachments to the outcome.
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And you will receive what you desire.
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He's dead on.
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Because when you really think about that and you let go of the, of the need for things to look a certain way, You open yourself up to, if something even better.
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Now here's the power of detachment.
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The attachment.
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Builds trust and confidence.
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in yourself.
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See when you detach.
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You're no longer putting all of your faith in one outcome.
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One plan one person, somebody else's decision.
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You're not.
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When you detach.
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You begin to develop trust.
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And faith.
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IN yourself.
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And what it is that you're doing.
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Back to what we were just talking about just a second ago.
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When you detach.
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You build resilience.
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Which is the ability to recover.
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Quickly.
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And because you recover quickly.
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This is just another way.
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It all goes like cyclical, man.
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And so when you.
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Practice that.
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And you recover quickly.
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This is a way of investing in yourself.
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And you're telling yourself.
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Hey, I'm not quitting.
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B we're going to be okay.
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I have faith in myself.
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I have trust in my abilities.
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I'll get some more skills I'll get some more reps.
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Something else is going to come.
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And what I thought I wanted, maybe that's maybe that's not what's best.
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What else?
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That means there's something bigger.
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See what the power of detachment on that so when you can detach.
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This is going to allow you to take confident risk.
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I love that term confident risk.
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You're confident.
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Remember safe has risk.
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Risk is safe.
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So when you take risk, it's safe.
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Because when you don't take risks and you try to play it safe.
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You're limiting your possibilities.
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But when you look at risk is safe.
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You confidently step out there.
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You detach from any specific need of an outcome?
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or timeline.
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I have that resilience.
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I have that faith.
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It's a spiritual component.
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I detached from it.
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I'll be fine.
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I could take the risk.
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And I release myself from the doubt.
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And the fear of failure.
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And let me tell you something.
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A lot of it is unfounded.
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It's imagined fear, disappointment.
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You've already fear-casted not forecasted you fear-casted what's going to happen, so you don't do it, but when you can detach and say, fuck it, let's do it.
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Let's try it.
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Let's see what happens.
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I'm going to be all right.
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I'm not saying be reckless, but I am saying.
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Take confident risk.
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There's more out there.
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When's the last time you took a risk.
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Just stepped outside your comfort zone.
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It's just do that.
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So when you can do that.
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You can face the failure.
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Failures an identity failing as part of the process I can learn and grow from that.
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I can ask questions.
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I can get creative.
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I can communicate with myself.
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I can learn from this.
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Dammit, I'm coming back for more.
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I can confront.
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Back to the book through detachment, you create an atmosphere.
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Of acceptance.
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I love that term atmosphere.
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Think of when you walk outside, it's the atmosphere.
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It's not just this little.
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Mason jar.
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No, you don't live in a Mason jar.
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You live in this vast universe.
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The atmosphere's protecting you.
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So you have this atmosphere.
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Of acceptance.
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So one path doesn't work.
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All right.
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Gotta be another side path here.
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What we talking about?
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And sometimes you just got to practice that patience.
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Hold the line.
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Be curious, be creative, be playful.
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And detach.
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You can't do that.
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If you're attached to everything.
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Detach.
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So let's wrap this up.
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Detachment.
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Isn't about giving up hope?
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It's about.
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Staying open.
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And letting go of the need to control everything.
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You got to trust, man, there's a bigger plan.
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At work for you.
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Your goals, your dreams, your desires.
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They're all important.
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But when you feel frustrated, or you're burned out?
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Or you're stuck.
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It's probably because you're too attached to how things look.
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You're too attached to a specific outcome in timeframe, and maybe you're comparing it to the next guy.
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This guy was successful.
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This guy did it and I should do it too.
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In this amount of time.
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No.
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We're all in different paths in life.
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May take you longer.
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Doesn't mean you won't get there.
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And it damn sure means that it could be better if you learn to practice.
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Detachment.
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Dr. Mullins ends this chapter with this detachment is one of the most powerful tools for manifesting our true desires into reality.
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That don't even sound right.
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Detachment is one of the most powerful tools.
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See it as a tool for manifesting our true desires.
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Into reality.
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You detach.
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And let the universe do its thing.
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For you.
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This is the only way you're going to manifest your true desires.
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I bring these things into reality.
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She says she's living proof.
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She's self-made millionaire.
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And when you read the course of her life, She didn't start off that way.
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Got pregnant.
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Very young.
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So the question is what are you holding on too tightly?
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What attachments.
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are draining your energy.
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Just detach let go.
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Trust yourself.
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Just pick a direction and head there.
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Work with simple process every day.
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And let life just guide you.
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Stay open.
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And when you find that you're starting to get kind of tense.
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When you find that you're frustrated and you become an, a little bit of an ass to people, you low short with people, you starting to get kind of this.
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Alone.
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You're aloof.
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Don't want to do nothing with nobody.
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Detach.
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Detach you give the universe nothing to work with.
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You won't see any other possibilities, any other paths you can't because you're too fixated, too attached.
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And I'm not talking about just one attachment man, many times the attachments that you have, there are other.
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Tentacles that are attached to that.
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So it may be one.
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Thing that's attached to you, but then you have all these other tentacles.
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That are just spread out like that.
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And so you're, you're just trying to pull decades and decades.
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Of attachments.
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Don't have to do that.
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Detachment.
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Is freedom.
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Keep it simple.
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Keep it moving.
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Never settle.
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Stay detached.
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Stay tough peace.
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Today.
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I want to talk about.
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Detachment.
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And I got this idea from reading the invincibility code by Dr. Shaurice.
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Mullins.
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And there's a section in there.
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The power of detachment.
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And it seems kind of weird, like.
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Power and detachment.
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Really don't go hand in hand, like.
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When you detach from something you release, it's kind of a floating feeling, but contrary to what you may think about detachment.
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As we roll out with this episode.
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I think you're going to see that the attachments in your life.
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Or what's hindering your progress are what is some of the greatest sources of frustrations?
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Is because you're attached.
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When you should be detached.
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. Dr. Mullins writes the power of detachment is a spiritual tool.
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That can open us up.
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To boundless possibilities.
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I love that.
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You won't boundless possibilities in your life.
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Then you have to look at detachment.
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As a spiritual tool.
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I never thought about detachment.
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Being a spiritual tool.
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Because it's not some sort of mindset or strategy that you do.
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It's way deeper than that.
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Mullins writes that detachment.
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Can actually open you up to the mysterious plans of the universe.
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Without worrying about how things will turn out.
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I love that.
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It opened you up.
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To the mysterious plans of the universe.
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How many times have you tried to play God?
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How many times have you tried to play universe that you know, what's best in your own life?
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And you get so entrenched in these attachments.
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That you're just trying to jam an outcome.
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And Mullins says, when you look at detachment as a spiritual component, You release.
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You free yourself.
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From any certain expectation.
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An expectation will be a timeline, or specific outcome in a timeline.
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You release all of that and you open yourself up to.
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The mysterious plans of the universe.
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In short detachment's freedom.
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You want more freedom in your life?
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Dude.
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I, I can't tell you how many times I've said that, man.
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I just.
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I want more freedom.
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Detach.
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When I say freedom.
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This is going to create freedom in your mind.
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And your emotions.
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And your energy.
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Energy's key.
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You know, lately, I was like, I was thinking to myself, like, man, I just like the last couple of days just been like drained of energy and I don't know why.
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I mean just like drained.
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And when I'm reading this, I'm like, Well, let's take a look at the attachments that you have.
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And these attachments to the specific outcomes.
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I'm 51.
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Many times I burn.
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This emotional and physical currency.
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Trying to right the wrongs of my past.
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Trying to get things.
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Set straight.
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Right.
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And so I'm attached to all these things in the past.
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Sometimes I find myself where I'm just trying to swing for the fences all at once.
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And to Mullin's point.
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Detach from all of that.
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This is what's building up his mind clutter.
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In layering in these toxic emotions.
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And draining my energy.
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I mean, think about it in your own life.
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How many times have you burned yourself out?
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Trying to force something to happen.
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You pushed, you shoved you're stressed out.
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You blew up.
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You did all these things.
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And when we have those moments.
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We have to detach.
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And notice what the universe is saying.
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The universe is like, "Nope, not yet." You're not ready.
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So maybe it's a layer of protection.
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I've talked about that.
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Maybe it's a, it's a form of efficiency.
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That there are some things that you need to be more efficient at this level.
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Maybe this, what you think you won't.
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Is not.
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It is not what the universe has in plan has in store for you.
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Maybe you need collaboration, you become more and more siloed.
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And raised on that one become more and more siloed.
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And in this.
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World bubble yourself and you've locked out the world.
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And the universe is saying.
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Zoom out.
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Detach.
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Collaborate.
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What I really like about when I read this.
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Is it's more of a playful.
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Mindset.
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I take life very serious.
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But sometimes I just do things too seriously.
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And because I don't get a specific outcome.
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I get all butthurt about it.
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& kind of lash out.
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I'm learning that when you can detach.
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You let go of the need to control the outcome.
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There are things outside of your control.
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We have to recognize that and I get it, man.
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That's just how we're wired.
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We're wired.
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To try to control everything.
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Detach.
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And when you do so.
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You create the space.
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That's important.
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You create space.
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For bigger and better things to happen.
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, back to the book, detachment encourages resilience.
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In the face of challenges.
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Now, let me talk about resilience, what is resilience?
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It's the capacity.
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To simply recover quickly.
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That's all it is.
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This is what makes someone tough.
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Not because they don't fall down.
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It's just there refuse to stay down.
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They get back up.
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And they bounce back.
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And you look at people who have like, You know, some people have hit the wall moments and have splattered and other people, and they just never were the person they once were.
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or other people just have this uncanny knack to be able to just, they bounce.
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They hit hard.
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Life deals in my tough blow, but man, they were able to just spring back it's because they've developed that resilience.
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And though they may not recognize it as I'm saying this.
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It could be because they're detached.
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From specific outcomes.
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And timelines because there are other paths available, but you'll never see those pathways.
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If you're attached.
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To doing it your way.
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Your way is not the best way.
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And we've got to detach from that.
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We got to recognize that and we got to attach.
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So it's about developing that resilience, the capacity to recover quickly.
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I mean, if you had to think about, I think about with athletes.
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Athletes have what's called a, a short refractory period.
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Meaning.
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That they don't stay locked in the last blown play.
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They missed the bucket.
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Boom.
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They shortened the timeframe they're onto the next play.
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They lose a game.
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Boom.
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They're studying that game film, trying to figure out the disconnect in their back at it again.
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They just don't ruminate.
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Like we do.
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We got to be more of life athletes.
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You're an athlete in life.
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We've got to shorten this thing down, so we'll, you can shorten the refractory period and actually be more tough.
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You want that?
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If you detach.
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What's next.
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There's always next.
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You gotta recognize that.
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Now, let me put a pin in that real quick.
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Detachment.
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Is not about giving up on your dreams.
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I'm not saying you're just this paper bag in the wind.
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It's not about giving up on your dreams, your goals.
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Your desires?
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No.
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You should absolutely have those things.
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But detachment . Is releasing the rigidity of the timelines.
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And the need.
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For a specific outcome.
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Again, Your dreams, your desires, your goals are important.
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It should be a direction.
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But you detach from the specific timeline that you built in.
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You could put a pin in it and say, look, three months from now.
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I'd like to be here, but just course correct along the way.
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It may be shorter and maybe longer.
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What's the saying?
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People underestimate.
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What they can do in 10 years.
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And they overestimate.
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What they can do in 10 weeks.
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Sometimes I think when we get all just built up with frustration and stuff, And we're just trying to jam this thing through it's because you have these.
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Unrealistic.
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Timelines.
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Put pressure on yourself.
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Absolutely make things hard on yourself.
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Absolutely.
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You should.
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But that detachment.
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Releases you.
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Of the failure.
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It releases you of the doubt.
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It does.
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Sometimes man, I think we just put ourselves in these self-imposed prisons.
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Again, we're attached to these mistakes.
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And we're trying to fix them.
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We're clinging on to this narrow vision.
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Of how things are supposed to turn out.
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And when it doesn't happen.
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We feel like the world's picking on us.
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And then we're frustrated.
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We're drained.
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We're assholes to be around.
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See.
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Just analyze your attachments.
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And begin to.
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Unsnap.
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From these attachments, man.
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This mental and physical and emotional currency that you, these cables.
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That you have attached.
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To the specific outcomes.
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It timelines.
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Detached from them all pick a direction.
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Heading that direction.
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But maintain your curiosity.
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Your creativity, your communication confront the obstacles.
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you're going to be fine.
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And have that wonder and awe of the mysterious plans of the universe, which got for me, man.
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As big G that all the time, which God, former G. What you got.
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God.
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I like a play with it.
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What you got for back to the book.
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This is important.
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Detaching from our desires can free up mental energy kind of touched on that.
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But I think it's worth really emphasizing.
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How often do you feel like your brain is just running on empty?
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Like your energy is just like, there's nothing left in the tank.
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And you're so tired.
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You're so stressed.
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But you're so tired and stressed that even rest seems impossible.
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Right.
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You ever had those times where you're so stressed out.
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And you're like, bro, I just, I need the rest, man.
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I just need a long weekend and just rest.
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And then that doesn't even seem to work.
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It seemed like it made it worse.
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That's because all of your attachments.
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Have drained, your mental and emotional and physical energy.
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So when you detach., It's like clearing out a cluttered room.
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It's like deleting some of the old photos and videos.
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in your phone you're freeing up storage is what you need, man.
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We're just, we just keep adding more storage.
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We think we do, but the storage that, the stuff that you're just cramming in there.
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And these, you have, you have these rooms, rooms and layers and layers of attachments.
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Over the years now dude I'm not talking about the last six months.
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I'm talking about over the last course of your life.
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So you have all these things, man, and you're just cramming more and more in there.
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This is why.
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You seem to go absent-minded.
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This is why you seem to just blow up out of nowhere is why you're drained.
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It's attachments, man.
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Look, how.
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How difficult we make life.
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We do life is super simple.
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It's not easy, but it's simple.
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We should always keep it simple.
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So when you can begin to detach.
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And clear out some of this clutter it's like cleaning out your garage, cleaning out this clutter.
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This is where you're going to make room for the creativity.
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And innovation.
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And new opportunities that you didn't see before.
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You couldn't see those things before you couldn't be creative, you couldn't be more innovative.
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Because you had all this clutter, but when you begin to declutter, just detach from it all, man.
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And there's nothing physically you have to do just unclip.
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I just like that.
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Even mental picture that I have unclipped from these things.
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It's like being on the side of a mountain down one of those cables and your clip to it, man.
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Just.
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Unclip.
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You won't hit the cliffs.
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You're not, you're not going to hit.
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You're gonna be fine.
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I think Wayne Dyer put it so well.
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When you renounce all your attachments to the outcome.
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You will receive what you desire.
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That doesn't even sound right.
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That sounds ass backwards.
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Renounce all attachments to the outcome.
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And you will receive what you desire.
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He's dead on.
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Because when you really think about that and you let go of the, of the need for things to look a certain way, You open yourself up to, if something even better.
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Now here's the power of detachment.
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The attachment.
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Builds trust and confidence.
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in yourself.
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See when you detach.
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You're no longer putting all of your faith in one outcome.
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One plan one person, somebody else's decision.
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You're not.
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When you detach.
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You begin to develop trust.
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And faith.
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IN yourself.
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And what it is that you're doing.
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Back to what we were just talking about just a second ago.
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When you detach.
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You build resilience.
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Which is the ability to recover.
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Quickly.
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And because you recover quickly.
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This is just another way.
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It all goes like cyclical, man.
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And so when you.
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Practice that.
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And you recover quickly.
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This is a way of investing in yourself.
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And you're telling yourself.
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Hey, I'm not quitting.
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B we're going to be okay.
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I have faith in myself.
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I have trust in my abilities.
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I'll get some more skills I'll get some more reps.
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Something else is going to come.
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And what I thought I wanted, maybe that's maybe that's not what's best.
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What else?
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That means there's something bigger.
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See what the power of detachment on that so when you can detach.
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This is going to allow you to take confident risk.
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I love that term confident risk.
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You're confident.
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Remember safe has risk.
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Risk is safe.
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So when you take risk, it's safe.
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Because when you don't take risks and you try to play it safe.
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You're limiting your possibilities.
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But when you look at risk is safe.
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You confidently step out there.
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You detach from any specific need of an outcome?
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or timeline.
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I have that resilience.
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I have that faith.
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It's a spiritual component.
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I detached from it.
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I'll be fine.
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I could take the risk.
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And I release myself from the doubt.
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And the fear of failure.
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And let me tell you something.
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A lot of it is unfounded.
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It's imagined fear, disappointment.
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You've already fear-casted not forecasted you fear-casted what's going to happen, so you don't do it, but when you can detach and say, fuck it, let's do it.
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Let's try it.
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Let's see what happens.
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I'm going to be all right.
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I'm not saying be reckless, but I am saying.
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Take confident risk.
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There's more out there.
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When's the last time you took a risk.
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Just stepped outside your comfort zone.
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It's just do that.
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So when you can do that.
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You can face the failure.
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Failures an identity failing as part of the process I can learn and grow from that.
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I can ask questions.
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I can get creative.
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I can communicate with myself.
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I can learn from this.
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Dammit, I'm coming back for more.
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I can confront.
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Back to the book through detachment, you create an atmosphere.
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Of acceptance.
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I love that term atmosphere.
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Think of when you walk outside, it's the atmosphere.
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It's not just this little.
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Mason jar.
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No, you don't live in a Mason jar.
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You live in this vast universe.
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The atmosphere's protecting you.
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So you have this atmosphere.
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Of acceptance.
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So one path doesn't work.
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All right.
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Gotta be another side path here.
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What we talking about?
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And sometimes you just got to practice that patience.
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Hold the line.
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Be curious, be creative, be playful.
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And detach.
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You can't do that.
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If you're attached to everything.
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Detach.
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So let's wrap this up.
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Detachment.
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Isn't about giving up hope?
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It's about.
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Staying open.
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And letting go of the need to control everything.
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You got to trust, man, there's a bigger plan.
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At work for you.
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Your goals, your dreams, your desires.
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They're all important.
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But when you feel frustrated, or you're burned out?
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Or you're stuck.
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It's probably because you're too attached to how things look.
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You're too attached to a specific outcome in timeframe, and maybe you're comparing it to the next guy.
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This guy was successful.
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This guy did it and I should do it too.
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In this amount of time.
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No.
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We're all in different paths in life.
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May take you longer.
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Doesn't mean you won't get there.
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And it damn sure means that it could be better if you learn to practice.
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Detachment.
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Dr. Mullins ends this chapter with this detachment is one of the most powerful tools for manifesting our true desires into reality.
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That don't even sound right.
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Detachment is one of the most powerful tools.
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See it as a tool for manifesting our true desires.
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Into reality.
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You detach.
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And let the universe do its thing.
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For you.
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This is the only way you're going to manifest your true desires.
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I bring these things into reality.
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She says she's living proof.
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She's self-made millionaire.
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And when you read the course of her life, She didn't start off that way.
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Got pregnant.
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Very young.
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So the question is what are you holding on too tightly?
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What attachments.
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are draining your energy.
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Just detach let go.
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Trust yourself.
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Just pick a direction and head there.
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Work with simple process every day.
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And let life just guide you.
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Stay open.
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And when you find that you're starting to get kind of tense.
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When you find that you're frustrated and you become an, a little bit of an ass to people, you low short with people, you starting to get kind of this.
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Alone.
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You're aloof.
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Don't want to do nothing with nobody.
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Detach.
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Detach you give the universe nothing to work with.
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You won't see any other possibilities, any other paths you can't because you're too fixated, too attached.
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And I'm not talking about just one attachment man, many times the attachments that you have, there are other.
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Tentacles that are attached to that.
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So it may be one.
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Thing that's attached to you, but then you have all these other tentacles.
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That are just spread out like that.
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And so you're, you're just trying to pull decades and decades.
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Of attachments.
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Don't have to do that.
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Detachment.
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Is freedom.
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Keep it simple.
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Keep it moving.
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Never settle.
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Stay detached.
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Stay tough peace.