Jan. 29, 2025
883. Quick Thoughts:How to Master Productive Confrontation: Stop Avoiding and Start Growing
🚨 Quick Thought for the Day 🚨
Most people say they hate confrontation, but what they’re really avoiding is the emotions that come with it—fear, frustration, or even vulnerability. But here’s the thing: confrontation doesn’t have to mean conflict, and avoiding it only makes the problem grow.
This quick primer is all about how to face it head-on, grow through it, and keep moving forward.
Full blog: https://marshbuice.wordpress.com/2025/01/28/confrontation-is-about-emotions-not-conflict/
🎙️ I’ll share more in an upcoming episode of What’s Your Problem?, but for now, take a couple of minutes and let this message set the tone for your day.
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Transcript
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00:00:00.000 --> 00:00:00.929
Hey, what's up guys.
00:00:00.929 --> 00:00:04.769
It's Marsh Buice and I want to just give you a quick thought for the day.
00:00:04.769 --> 00:00:05.549
And it's about.
00:00:06.240 --> 00:00:07.169
Confrontation.
00:00:07.740 --> 00:00:11.310
Most people say they avoid confrontation, but let's be real.
00:00:11.669 --> 00:00:14.460
It's not the confrontation that you're avoiding.
00:00:15.060 --> 00:00:16.739
It's the emotions that come with it.
00:00:17.519 --> 00:00:19.980
See, you're not afraid to address the issue.
00:00:20.609 --> 00:00:23.280
You're afraid on how it'll make you feel.
00:00:23.750 --> 00:00:26.489
or how the other person might react.
00:00:27.120 --> 00:00:28.109
But here's the deal.
00:00:28.589 --> 00:00:29.699
Confrontation.
00:00:30.239 --> 00:00:32.308
Doesn't have to be a conflict.
00:00:32.909 --> 00:00:35.878
It's about addressing the situation, not attacking the person.
00:00:36.429 --> 00:00:40.719
So when you handle it productively, It becomes a tool.
00:00:41.409 --> 00:00:42.488
For your personal growth.
00:00:43.029 --> 00:00:46.119
I mean, think about it every time that you avoid confrontation.
00:00:47.018 --> 00:00:47.979
It's getting worse.
00:00:48.369 --> 00:00:49.779
You're letting the problem grow.
00:00:49.779 --> 00:00:50.948
It's not going to go away.
00:00:51.279 --> 00:00:53.018
And dude, I speak from experience.
00:00:53.319 --> 00:00:54.878
I have had so many times.
00:00:55.389 --> 00:00:58.719
Where I just felt like if I could just keep the peace.
00:00:59.409 --> 00:01:00.488
Everything will be fine.
00:01:00.939 --> 00:01:02.588
But the problem with that is.
00:01:03.579 --> 00:01:05.500
It just continues to get worse.
00:01:06.069 --> 00:01:06.728
And so.
00:01:07.569 --> 00:01:09.219
This thing kind of mounts up.
00:01:10.278 --> 00:01:13.129
Procrastination never shrinks the issue.
00:01:13.579 --> 00:01:15.228
It only builds pressure.
00:01:15.739 --> 00:01:17.179
Until it explodes.
00:01:17.299 --> 00:01:18.649
And when it explodes.
00:01:19.009 --> 00:01:21.558
It explodes in a big, big way.
00:01:21.799 --> 00:01:25.459
So this is why I say, if you keep the minors minor, they'll never become major.
00:01:25.998 --> 00:01:30.349
So if you take the smallest steps, Addressing the minor things easily.
00:01:31.849 --> 00:01:33.349
You're going to build the skills.
00:01:33.709 --> 00:01:34.849
And the confidence.
00:01:35.269 --> 00:01:37.219
To handle bigger challenges down the road.
00:01:37.668 --> 00:01:40.728
See it's it's confrontation is a lot like life.
00:01:41.028 --> 00:01:43.759
You can't handle more until you handle now.
00:01:44.209 --> 00:01:49.219
And so as you began to handle a little bit more and you just wade to the waters.
00:01:49.338 --> 00:01:49.819
Yes.
00:01:49.819 --> 00:01:54.138
The natural tendency is to avoid conflict, to avoid confrontation.
00:01:54.679 --> 00:01:58.159
But if you see it for what it is, it's a resolution.
00:01:58.549 --> 00:02:00.769
And you're confronting the situation.
00:02:01.310 --> 00:02:02.719
Not attacking the person.
00:02:03.349 --> 00:02:07.340
So, if you begin to do this, You're going to get better at it.
00:02:07.668 --> 00:02:09.949
And you're going to develop, these are life skills.
00:02:09.949 --> 00:02:13.489
You are always going to have conflict and think about this.
00:02:13.669 --> 00:02:15.560
You want to be rich, powerful, and famous.
00:02:15.799 --> 00:02:17.689
You think that you're going to get to there?
00:02:17.989 --> 00:02:19.400
And not have conflict.
00:02:19.819 --> 00:02:21.289
It's going to come to you in a big way.
00:02:21.829 --> 00:02:23.989
So while you're broke and overweight.
00:02:24.859 --> 00:02:27.169
And things aren't going well for you right now.
00:02:27.769 --> 00:02:29.060
Learn to handle the conflict.
00:02:29.569 --> 00:02:31.549
This is what's going to set.
00:02:31.549 --> 00:02:33.530
The road is set the table.
00:02:34.189 --> 00:02:35.959
For bigger things for you down the line.
00:02:36.919 --> 00:02:38.900
You got to remember this confrontation.
00:02:40.219 --> 00:02:42.259
Is a key part of leveling up in your life.
00:02:43.069 --> 00:02:44.719
It is a true sign that you're growing.
00:02:45.560 --> 00:02:47.659
And the people or the situations.
00:02:47.959 --> 00:02:49.159
They try to pull you down.
00:02:50.539 --> 00:02:52.009
It's just another part of the challenge.
00:02:53.030 --> 00:02:55.459
It's your next step up.
00:02:56.060 --> 00:02:57.590
So today don't avoid it.
00:02:58.219 --> 00:02:58.789
Face it.
00:02:59.209 --> 00:03:02.120
Whatever it is that you feel don't come around to it later.
00:03:02.179 --> 00:03:03.139
It's like a bandaid dude.
00:03:03.139 --> 00:03:03.859
Just rip it off.
00:03:04.250 --> 00:03:06.379
Face it handle it with intention.
00:03:07.459 --> 00:03:08.269
And then keep it moving.
00:03:08.810 --> 00:03:09.590
Keep things simple.
00:03:09.590 --> 00:03:11.599
I don't add a big, big narrative to it.
00:03:11.840 --> 00:03:15.799
And a lot of times, man, you're going to find that the confrontation is imagined.
00:03:16.250 --> 00:03:17.329
The result of it.
00:03:17.810 --> 00:03:18.919
How it's gonna play out.
00:03:18.919 --> 00:03:19.669
You don't know.
00:03:20.329 --> 00:03:21.109
You don't know.
00:03:21.859 --> 00:03:28.189
And so you just wait until the waters, you're going to get better at it, but I'm going to dive deeper into this later on.
00:03:28.189 --> 00:03:30.409
I'm real excited about sharing it.
00:03:30.409 --> 00:03:39.739
I did post a blog on it today, but I'm going to riff it even more in a future episode, but I just want to give you a primer for today because this is what I do.
00:03:39.919 --> 00:03:43.609
And this is for my listeners at what's your problem, the podcast.
00:03:43.639 --> 00:03:44.359
Thanks so much for.
00:03:44.659 --> 00:03:46.310
Being a part of what's your problem?
00:03:46.340 --> 00:03:46.969
The podcast.
00:03:47.150 --> 00:03:48.650
Hope you guys have an amazing day.
00:03:48.650 --> 00:03:49.250
Keep it simple.
00:03:49.250 --> 00:03:49.819
Keep it moving.
00:03:49.819 --> 00:03:50.329
Never settle.
00:03:50.329 --> 00:03:51.270
Stay tough peace.
00:00:00.000 --> 00:00:00.929
Hey, what's up guys.
00:00:00.929 --> 00:00:04.769
It's Marsh Buice and I want to just give you a quick thought for the day.
00:00:04.769 --> 00:00:05.549
And it's about.
00:00:06.240 --> 00:00:07.169
Confrontation.
00:00:07.740 --> 00:00:11.310
Most people say they avoid confrontation, but let's be real.
00:00:11.669 --> 00:00:14.460
It's not the confrontation that you're avoiding.
00:00:15.060 --> 00:00:16.739
It's the emotions that come with it.
00:00:17.519 --> 00:00:19.980
See, you're not afraid to address the issue.
00:00:20.609 --> 00:00:23.280
You're afraid on how it'll make you feel.
00:00:23.750 --> 00:00:26.489
or how the other person might react.
00:00:27.120 --> 00:00:28.109
But here's the deal.
00:00:28.589 --> 00:00:29.699
Confrontation.
00:00:30.239 --> 00:00:32.308
Doesn't have to be a conflict.
00:00:32.909 --> 00:00:35.878
It's about addressing the situation, not attacking the person.
00:00:36.429 --> 00:00:40.719
So when you handle it productively, It becomes a tool.
00:00:41.409 --> 00:00:42.488
For your personal growth.
00:00:43.029 --> 00:00:46.119
I mean, think about it every time that you avoid confrontation.
00:00:47.018 --> 00:00:47.979
It's getting worse.
00:00:48.369 --> 00:00:49.779
You're letting the problem grow.
00:00:49.779 --> 00:00:50.948
It's not going to go away.
00:00:51.279 --> 00:00:53.018
And dude, I speak from experience.
00:00:53.319 --> 00:00:54.878
I have had so many times.
00:00:55.389 --> 00:00:58.719
Where I just felt like if I could just keep the peace.
00:00:59.409 --> 00:01:00.488
Everything will be fine.
00:01:00.939 --> 00:01:02.588
But the problem with that is.
00:01:03.579 --> 00:01:05.500
It just continues to get worse.
00:01:06.069 --> 00:01:06.728
And so.
00:01:07.569 --> 00:01:09.219
This thing kind of mounts up.
00:01:10.278 --> 00:01:13.129
Procrastination never shrinks the issue.
00:01:13.579 --> 00:01:15.228
It only builds pressure.
00:01:15.739 --> 00:01:17.179
Until it explodes.
00:01:17.299 --> 00:01:18.649
And when it explodes.
00:01:19.009 --> 00:01:21.558
It explodes in a big, big way.
00:01:21.799 --> 00:01:25.459
So this is why I say, if you keep the minors minor, they'll never become major.
00:01:25.998 --> 00:01:30.349
So if you take the smallest steps, Addressing the minor things easily.
00:01:31.849 --> 00:01:33.349
You're going to build the skills.
00:01:33.709 --> 00:01:34.849
And the confidence.
00:01:35.269 --> 00:01:37.219
To handle bigger challenges down the road.
00:01:37.668 --> 00:01:40.728
See it's it's confrontation is a lot like life.
00:01:41.028 --> 00:01:43.759
You can't handle more until you handle now.
00:01:44.209 --> 00:01:49.219
And so as you began to handle a little bit more and you just wade to the waters.
00:01:49.338 --> 00:01:49.819
Yes.
00:01:49.819 --> 00:01:54.138
The natural tendency is to avoid conflict, to avoid confrontation.
00:01:54.679 --> 00:01:58.159
But if you see it for what it is, it's a resolution.
00:01:58.549 --> 00:02:00.769
And you're confronting the situation.
00:02:01.310 --> 00:02:02.719
Not attacking the person.
00:02:03.349 --> 00:02:07.340
So, if you begin to do this, You're going to get better at it.
00:02:07.668 --> 00:02:09.949
And you're going to develop, these are life skills.
00:02:09.949 --> 00:02:13.489
You are always going to have conflict and think about this.
00:02:13.669 --> 00:02:15.560
You want to be rich, powerful, and famous.
00:02:15.799 --> 00:02:17.689
You think that you're going to get to there?
00:02:17.989 --> 00:02:19.400
And not have conflict.
00:02:19.819 --> 00:02:21.289
It's going to come to you in a big way.
00:02:21.829 --> 00:02:23.989
So while you're broke and overweight.
00:02:24.859 --> 00:02:27.169
And things aren't going well for you right now.
00:02:27.769 --> 00:02:29.060
Learn to handle the conflict.
00:02:29.569 --> 00:02:31.549
This is what's going to set.
00:02:31.549 --> 00:02:33.530
The road is set the table.
00:02:34.189 --> 00:02:35.959
For bigger things for you down the line.
00:02:36.919 --> 00:02:38.900
You got to remember this confrontation.
00:02:40.219 --> 00:02:42.259
Is a key part of leveling up in your life.
00:02:43.069 --> 00:02:44.719
It is a true sign that you're growing.
00:02:45.560 --> 00:02:47.659
And the people or the situations.
00:02:47.959 --> 00:02:49.159
They try to pull you down.
00:02:50.539 --> 00:02:52.009
It's just another part of the challenge.
00:02:53.030 --> 00:02:55.459
It's your next step up.
00:02:56.060 --> 00:02:57.590
So today don't avoid it.
00:02:58.219 --> 00:02:58.789
Face it.
00:02:59.209 --> 00:03:02.120
Whatever it is that you feel don't come around to it later.
00:03:02.179 --> 00:03:03.139
It's like a bandaid dude.
00:03:03.139 --> 00:03:03.859
Just rip it off.
00:03:04.250 --> 00:03:06.379
Face it handle it with intention.
00:03:07.459 --> 00:03:08.269
And then keep it moving.
00:03:08.810 --> 00:03:09.590
Keep things simple.
00:03:09.590 --> 00:03:11.599
I don't add a big, big narrative to it.
00:03:11.840 --> 00:03:15.799
And a lot of times, man, you're going to find that the confrontation is imagined.
00:03:16.250 --> 00:03:17.329
The result of it.
00:03:17.810 --> 00:03:18.919
How it's gonna play out.
00:03:18.919 --> 00:03:19.669
You don't know.
00:03:20.329 --> 00:03:21.109
You don't know.
00:03:21.859 --> 00:03:28.189
And so you just wait until the waters, you're going to get better at it, but I'm going to dive deeper into this later on.
00:03:28.189 --> 00:03:30.409
I'm real excited about sharing it.
00:03:30.409 --> 00:03:39.739
I did post a blog on it today, but I'm going to riff it even more in a future episode, but I just want to give you a primer for today because this is what I do.
00:03:39.919 --> 00:03:43.609
And this is for my listeners at what's your problem, the podcast.
00:03:43.639 --> 00:03:44.359
Thanks so much for.
00:03:44.659 --> 00:03:46.310
Being a part of what's your problem?
00:03:46.340 --> 00:03:46.969
The podcast.
00:03:47.150 --> 00:03:48.650
Hope you guys have an amazing day.
00:03:48.650 --> 00:03:49.250
Keep it simple.
00:03:49.250 --> 00:03:49.819
Keep it moving.
00:03:49.819 --> 00:03:50.329
Never settle.
00:03:50.329 --> 00:03:51.270
Stay tough peace.