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All right.
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3, 2, 1.
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Let's get it.
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Welcome back to what your problem, the podcast, I'm your host, Marsh Buice and today I want to share something that is absolutely transformative.
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Something I believe that can change your approach.
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To your goals, your challenges.
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And even your everyday life, it's a concept that a pool from Greg Harden's book stay sane in an insane world.
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Love the title.
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And it boils down to three words, commit.
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Improve.
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And maintain.
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These three words, simple as they sound.
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They hold the key to building a better life.
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So whether you're feeling stuck.
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Are you feeling overwhelmed?
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Or even if things are going super good for you.
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And you just looking at, go up to that next level.
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This episode's for you.
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So let's break this down super, super quick for you, because I believe in getting you in getting you out and get you on with your life.
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So let's start with commitment.
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This is the foundation without commitment.
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Nothing else happens.
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So the first question that you got to ask yourself.
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Is what do you want your life to look like?
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And don't take stock and necessarily where you are right now.
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That's deceiving where you are right now is a result of where you've been.
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Okay.
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So.
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What do you want your life to look like moving forward from here?
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Drop all the baggage.
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I get it.
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We all have baggage.
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We all want a better life.
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But in the commitment aspect of it, just take a minute and say, look.
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This is what I want my life to look like.
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Not what others expect of you, not what you think you, that you should want, but what do you truly want?
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What's the thing, man, and if you're not sure what that is.
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Just take a look at your frustrations.
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That's often a clue.
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I mean, think about it.
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What do you complain about most?
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Is it your health?
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Is that your energy?
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Is it your finances, your relationship, whatever it is.
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That's your starting point.
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That's your lead domino, the lead domino.
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I love this.
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Just the, just think about a lead domino.
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The lead domino is what hits everything else.
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So the lead domino is the one thing that if you push it over, everything else falls into place for you.
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So for most people, it's probably fitness.
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Why?
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Because when you're physically stronger, you're more disciplined.
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You're confident.
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You're energized.
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You show up better for your relationships for your work.
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And mostly for yourself.
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So here's my challenge for you.
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The only thing I want you to commit to is 90 days.
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I don't like months.
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I don't like three months, even though it's the same thing.
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It just sounds longer.
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But when you say 90 days, like in your journal, every single morning, you just write down whatever day it is.
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So start from 90 and countdown.
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So today is day 90.
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Write it in the top right-hand corner.
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It's not a lifetime.
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But it will set the course for a better lifetime aren't you tired of stopping and starting and stop quitting.
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So the first thing you got to do is just commit, commit to 90 days.
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And why I say 90 days is because it's long enough to create momentum, but it's short enough to stay focused.
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It's not forever.
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But I'm telling you, dude, if you do this for 90 days, your entire life.
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Is going to change.
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Because you'll be focused and you'd be like, oh my God, you can overcome a decade or more of neglect.
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And just 90 days, aren't you worth the investment?
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So, what I want you to do is I want you to set your non-negotiables.
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These are what I call your, no matter what rain, sleet, or snow.
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off I go.
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So I'm, in other words, you're no matter what is , nothing gets in the way of it.
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Not your family, not your work, none of that.
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Like even sometimes it may mean that you rock off of just a little bit of sleep.
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Whatever you get it in, you can take a nap later.
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So commit to this as 90 days.
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I commit to this.
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So work of a simple process, I bang the drum about a process all the time.
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So working out every day.
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Even if it's as little as 20 minutes, spin 15 minutes of random reading.
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You may, the 15 minutes is arbitrary, 15, 20 minutes, whatever.
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You may be one of those type of people that likes to read a book cover to cover.
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If that's you cool.
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You may get bored with reading what you're reading and you feel like it's a slog.
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So do random reading.
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I do both.
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So the random reading is I pick a chapter out of a random book every single day.
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And I read that one chapter.
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Normally it's about 15, 20 minutes.
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Today I was reading out of a Rabbi Kushner his book.
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, when bad things happen to good people, I didn't get through all the chapter, but I got a big bulk of it.
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He was talking about the book of job.
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And so I got something that the biggest thing is, is it's just priming your mind.
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Because.
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It's important to be physically fit.
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But you've also got to be emotionally and spiritually fit too.
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So that's why I like that 15 minutes of priming every single day.
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And then write one page.
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Now there's a couple of ways you can write, you can write about what you just read and riff off of that.
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You can write word for word if that's what you want.
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This is for you, but write at least one page.
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This is going to empty your mind and clarify your thoughts.
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You'll think clearer, you'll think quicker and you'll be more receptive to the day itself.
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You just got to remember man consistency over intensity.
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So don't start off on a fireball.
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Of intensity you're.
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You're going to Peter out, be consistent.
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That's the biggest thing.
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Be average.
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I say that all the time, you gotta be average to be great.
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Meaning that consistency over intensity.
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You got to build your averages in and as you do.
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The intensity, because you start to see the results.
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The intensity will naturally gravitate up because you're going to be like, oh yeah, game on.
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I've got the hammer down, man.
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I'm winning.
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I want to win even more.
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So consistency over intensity.
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The goal is to build trust with yourself because each day you keep these internal commitments to yourself.
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This is the source of confidence.
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This is what builds that confidence.
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And here's the magic.
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When you keep those internal commitments to yourself.
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Then you're going to find it easier.
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To honor the external commitments to.
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Not the, should I gotta, man, I'm gonna get around that.
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I'm gonna do it this weekend.
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No, every single day, bro.
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If you keep these small commitments to yourself, You'll feel better about yourself.
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You'll be more confident because you'll have character building days when you ain't feeling it.
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When you're tired, when you want to just lay up.
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And you get it done anyway, and you feel so good at, on the backside of that.
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Boom.
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Get it done.
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Now, once you've committed, the next step is to improve.
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Improvement is not about perfection.
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It's about progress.
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When you're in, in, in the improvement layer.
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You gotta say.
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Is this action in alignment with the person that I want to become.
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If the answer is yes.
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Move forward.
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If not just course, correct.
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Just adjust.
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There are going to be days where you win the decision to move on.
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They're going to be days where you blow.
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The opportunity.
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All right.
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Learn from it either way.
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Keep moving.
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You got to think of every day as an opportunity to move the needle.
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I love the concept of moving the needle.
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Just imagine like that.
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That needle on a, like a speedometer or RPM, you know, and that thing just ticks up when you give it gas.
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That's what that moving the needle is.
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So every decision that you make.
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Whether it's working out.
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Staying disciplined with your time or even saying no to something that doesn't serve you, bro.
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That's a win.
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And here's the thing about improvement.
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Improvement.
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Builds momentum.
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And the momentum compounds.
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So when you make consistent positive choices, Those small wins.
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They add up and suddenly you're not just making progress.
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Bro, you're building a lifestyle.
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And then you can share that with others.
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Don't be afraid to make mistakes.
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You're going to slip up.
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It's not about perfection.
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Okay.
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It's the day after.
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Perfect.
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Right.
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So you're going to have those days where just didn't go.
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Perfect.
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You're going to have these commitments and for week man, you were just perfect.
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And then all of a sudden you stumbled focus on the day after.
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Perfect.
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Expect the day after.
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Perfect.
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This is what's going to build that commitment.
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This is what's going to build that character.
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This is what's going to build that resilience get after it.
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Don't stop.
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You're going to make mistakes.
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You're going to fuck up.
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Learn.
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Keep going.
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Because improvement.
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It's about failing.
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Failing.
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As a process failure is an identity key failing.
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Keep iterating, keep evolving, keep climbing.
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And finally let's talk about maintenance.
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I love this one.
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This is my absolute fate favorite.
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So you have commit, improve, maintain now from the outside.
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When I first read that, I'm like, oh yeah, maintain, maintain to most of us.
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Think it's think it's about staying where you are, but Greg harden flips the idea on its head maintenance is about consistency.
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And positive changes and peak performance is not about coasting.
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It's about continuing to evolve.
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Life's going to throw you curve balls.
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That is absolute given.
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But when you're committed to the growth.
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You just adapt and adjust.
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The maintenance phase is active.
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It's about.
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Moving the needle.
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It's about a positive mindset and peak progress.
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It's about holding on to the progress that you've made.
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And then building on it, not having to start in a deficit every single day.
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You win the decision you win the day you win.
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The moment you go on each day is a result of your past efforts.
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But it's not the final outcome.
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And don't get head fake bad that you're going to have those days that just blow up.
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That's a result.
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That's not an outcome.
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You control the keys to the outcome and the outcome.
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Only comes.
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When you commit, improve, maintain day after day.
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Stay consistent.
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Just stay consistent with your actions every single day.
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So how do we put all this together?
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Commit improve, maintain.
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Is your daily checklist.
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This is what I love about it.
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It's just kind of a quick check back or it's even when you're in the cross hairs of a decision where you say commit, improve, maintain, commit, improve, maintain, you just feel like you're just in the gutter.
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Some days commit, improve, maintain.
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Commit.
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Is this an alignment improve?
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Am I moving?
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Moving the needle maintain.
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Positive mindset, peak performance.
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Boom, never stop.
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So when you're faced with a decision.
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Quick thing.
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Quick question.
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Does this honor my commitments.
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Am I committed to myself?
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Does this help me improve?
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Am I maintaining positive momentum because dude, there's, there's negative momentum to.
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There is such a thing as negative momentum.
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So the negative momentum is the all of the sudden's.
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All of a sudden you're 20 pounds overweight.
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All of a sudden you're 50 grand in credit card debt.
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That's a negative momentum that's because you've lost your way of commitment, improving, maintaining.
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But when you get on that, see, this is what keeps you on track commit, improve, maintain, commit, improve, maintain.
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When you do this, these three principles.
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Are your compass it's your framework for growth, and this is what's going to keep you grounded in life.
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And keep you from getting overwhelmed and focused.
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And not all big lip and because shit's not happening fast enough for you.
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It's going to come together.
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Remember the timeline we're on eventually and ultimately eventually you commit, improve, maintain eventually.
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That momentum is going to build up.
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You're going to reach that tipping point.
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You're going to see the results of the changes.
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Remember, change starts immediately.
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The results take time, commit, improve, maintain.
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When you do that.
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Eventually.
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You'll see the changes and ultimately.
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You will succeed.
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Let me leave you with a doll from Epictetus.
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He said true happiness.
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Is a verb.
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Love that.
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See happiness.
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It's not something that's done passively.
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It ain't just going to come to you.
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True.
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Happiness is a verb.
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Happiness is not something you wait on is something that you create.
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Through the actions.
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Through dynamic performance dynamic.
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Means constant state of change.
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Constant progress.
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Through dynamic performance and meaningful progress.
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It's not a destination.
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It's a direction.
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So when you commit, improve and maintain.
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You're not just making progress.
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You're building a life of purpose of resilience.
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Of fulfillment.
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So, let me ask you this.
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What's your next step.
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Just commit to 90 days start small.
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build momentum.
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Momentum.
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And watch what happens.
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Thanks for tuning in.
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Today, if this episode resonated with you.
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Please share it with someone who might need to hear it.
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And remember as always keep it.
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simple, keep it moving.
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Never settle.
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Stay tough peace.