Dec. 2, 2024
871. Every Day You're Either Building Courage or Cowardice.
Today, as you tune into this episode, I want you to think about something important: Every day, with every decision you make, you're either building your courage or your cowardice. This isn't just about big, life-changing moments; it's about the everyday choices that shape who we are and who we become.
What You'll Discover:
In this episode, I'm diving deep into courageous confrontation, and I'll show you how embracing these moments can transform not just your day but your entire life. You'll learn how to:
- Shift Your View on Confrontation: It's not about conflict. It’s about growth, opportunity, and stepping out of what’s comfortable.
- Implement Daily Courage: From those tough phone calls to the decisions you've been putting off, I’ll give you practical steps to take action.
- Understand the Real Comfort: Realize how true comfort comes from facing challenges, not avoiding them.
- Build Incremental Bravery: See how small acts of bravery stack up to create significant changes.
- Develop Key Life Skills: Enhance your personal and professional life with skills that encourage proactiveness and engagement.
- Get Motivated: I'm here to push you into action, not just contemplation.
Why Listen?
If you’re tired of sitting on the sidelines of your life, wondering when things will change, this episode is for you. Stop building walls and start breaking them down. Embrace the little confrontations that can lead to a big, colorful life. Join me, and let's begin building courage, one act at a time.
Outro:
Remember, it's your life, and it's up to you to paint it with bold colors. Share your journey with me—hit up my socials or send a voice message on my site. Let’s kick comfort to the curb and choose courage every single day. Stay bold, and keep pushing forward. Peace!
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Keep it simple. Keep it moving. Never settle. Stay tough.
Transcript
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All right.
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3, 2, 1.
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Let's get it.
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As the timer goes.
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Welcome back to the show.
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This is what your problem.
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I'm your host, Marsh Buice if this the first time we've met.
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Welcome aboard.
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I'm gonna get you in, get you out and get you on with your life.
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Have you been here at time or 10?
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Welcome back.
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And here on this show,, we confront.
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The three universal problems in our life.
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Adversity, uncertainty and complacency.
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And I hope by listening to these episodes that you'll develop the skillset.
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To handle the adversity, embrace the uncertainty and never settle.
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Again.
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Those skills you have within you just got to ignite them.
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You got to work a more.
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And they all start with letter C it's only five of them.
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Communication curiosity, creativity, continuous learning and action.
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And courageous confrontation.
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I used to say productive confrontation, but I'm going to change it.
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And this is what I'm bringing this episode about.
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And it's the courage.
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To confront.
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The confrontation has such a negative.
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First.
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I mean, the minute you hear.
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The word confrontation, I'm going to confront some things it's immediately negative.
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It's like that person.
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That's just got a bad reputation in town.
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As soon as you hear their name and be like, oh no, I don't want nothing to do with them.
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That's how we look at confrontation.
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But you have to look at productive confrontation.
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Is it's the key to your life.
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It's the key to everything.
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When you practice.
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Confronting things.
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And that's what, and I'm, I help you with that today when you practice confronting some things, it is going to develop your curiosity, your creativity.
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It's going to open up more connections for you.
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Collaboration's opportunities.
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And it leads to a more colorful life.
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Your life has become dull.
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Because you've become more of a coward.
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And I'm not saying that you're wimpy.
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I'm saying that.
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When I say the word coward.
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Cowardness is actually disguised by another word.
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It's disguised as comfort.
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And so in an effort.
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To have a more comfortable life.
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We do less and less and less.
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When actually the key.
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To a more comfortable life.
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Is to confront more and more and more.
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That is the true comfort.
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Because that is going to open up more connections.
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That is going to open you up to more.
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Opportunities.
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And so you're, the risk is safe.
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Safe has risk.
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And so every day, if you think about it, you're being a little more safe.
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Like you get to these levels of competence.
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And then.
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You start regressing back.
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But it's so subtle.
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And you become a little more comfortable, more and more each day.
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And you begin to chase that.
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And when I say chase it, it's more so that you're accepting.
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Comfort.
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And you begin to relax.
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And the things that once scared you.
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You kind of begin to accept and you shrink into this thing.
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And you could be in this point in your life where you're looking at things, you're like, wait a minute.
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And that's a good thing.
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Because you're awakening to the fact that.
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I'm not being courageous anymore.
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And I'm not talking about burning building kind of courage.
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Firefighters, or aren't born firefighters.
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They're trained.
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Into.
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Practicing courage without even thinking.
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That's just a task.
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They do.
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So what if you approached your, your days?
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Becoming more courageous.
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And these are small acts, man.
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That's, what's beautiful about this.
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There are small, often low consequential . But there.
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It's going to be more healthy for you.
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I might explain that in a minute.
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And it's going to set you off.
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To have a bigger, better, more colorful life who doesn't want that.
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You don't have to wait for life to ultimately test you to see what you're made of you.
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Don't.
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If you practice.
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These small acts of courage every day, the AOC.
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If you, if you, if you embrace just taking these small acts of courage every day, You're going to be more RFA.
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You're going to be more ready for anything.
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And because you're developing this skillset.
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And so the small acts of courage every day, Are the phone calls that you need to make?
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Whether it's a phone call that you need to have a conversation with or if it's phone calls in your profession, stop by hiding behind the email.
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Stop hiding behind a text message.
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Just confront.
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Just pick up the phone and, and just do it.
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The employer that you need to call, call them.
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Stop.
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You know, Hey, I was wondering if you guys made a decision yet now show up.
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Talk to him.
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Hey, I put in an application.
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I just wanted you to put a name with a face.
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What's the worst that can happen.
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We already filled the position.
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And then that would open up some curiosity.
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So that way you could get a better feel.
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And because you're asking those questions, they may say, you know what, I have something that's coming up or I have something at another store.
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Boom.
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But it's because you confronted those things.
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That debt you need the tackle, confront it, set your timer for 15 minutes and begin to at least look at it.
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It ain't going to go away.
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And you just swirling around in your head thinking that, oh, I'll get to a man.
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I would just keep playing this lottery.
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No confront.
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It's these small acts.
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And when the timer goes off in 15 minutes, go off and go do whatever else that you need to do.
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But the small acts of courage every single day, man.
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This is what's going to just build you up.
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And this courage is a skillset.
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It's a life skill.
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That's why it's part of the five CS communication, curiosity, creativity.
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Continuous learning.
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And courageous confrontation and you build this courage.
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And this is going to become a way of life for you.
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As well, see, it's the small pauses in your life.
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That lead to huge regrets over time.
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That little points of hesitation and because it's just a slight hesitation, it doesn't seem like much, but see, as you keep doing that, It becomes a way of life.
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It becomes something that gets easier to do.
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If you think about it, the things that you really regret are the things that you didn't do more so than the things that you did do.
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How will you learn?
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How will you grow?
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How will you.
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Connect more.
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How will you seize more opportunities?
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It's through one key hole.
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Courageous confrontation.
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So practice.
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A couple of ways to do this.
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Mel Robbins, she wrote a whole book about the five second rule and basically.
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If you don't want to buy the book, it's a great book.
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But if you don't want to buy the book, count from five to one before you even get to one, boom, do the damn thing.
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I think of it.
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I have a mental image of a bandaid.
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Just rip the bandaid off.
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I even tell customers, look, just make a decision, rip the bandaid off and whatever the decision is, just roll with it.
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But that's what you have to do when I feel that hesitation, that, that hesitation right there is opportunity on the other side is connections on the other side is a more colorful life on the other side.
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It's everything.
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It literally is everything.
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And you're going to find when you, when you just start practicing the small acts of courage, this courageous confrontation, when you feel that hesitation, boom, do it because you're going to find.
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Number one, it wasn't so bad.
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It wasn't even what you thought.
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Number two, the answer that you got opens up whole new connections opens up a whole nother.
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Uh, connections.
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Opportunities.
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It just, it just opens up the doorway and maybe not in that one moment, but when this becomes a way of life, Then it's, I'm telling you.
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All the dots are going to connect some kind of way.
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It's never for, for nothing.
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It's all going to connect, but this act that you took right now may build you up for other things.
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And then five years from now, because this is just becomes a way of life.
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That thing that you did.
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Five years ago.
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Boom.
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You're like, God.
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I didn't know where it was going to lead.
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Right then that dot connected five years back, 60 months later, I be damned.
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And that's what you need, man.
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You need some more IB damn moments.
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The people who are fearless in his life.
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Aren't just fearless.
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They just confront faster and confront more.
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That's the only difference between you and them.
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They're just willing to confront more.
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And confront faster and they don't need all this plan and they just like, wow, fuck it.
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And they go, and sometimes, you know, that was triggered a long time ago.
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I know some of my, I know my confrontation was triggered when I was at rock bottom.
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I had nothing else to lose.
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And sometimes when you have nothing to lose, when you have everything to gain, and so you don't have to wait for rock bottom moments, but you can kind of find your rock bottom moments or put your back against the wall every single day.
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And just when you feel that hesitation dude, You just confront it.
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And this just becomes, it's kind of like the ugly dude who picks up all the hot chicks at the club and you're like, dude, how's he do it?
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He just confronts more.
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He just asked more.
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That's the only difference.
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So he does this, that, and it just becomes a way of life.
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He gets used to the rejection it, and so it was just, it's just part of it.
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It's just a numbers game.
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You want better numbers in life?
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You want more opportunities?
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You want more connections?
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You wish you had more, you wish there was more spice to life.
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Got to confront and the way to do it.
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Is to practice it every single day.
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Every moment you get.
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I want you to just boom.
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Do it.
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It takes seconds and you're going to find man.
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That it's just going to, and it's going to release the tension in your life because you just, you don't let these things build up.
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Is that buildup, man, this is the thing that leads you to eat more, workout, less, drink more.
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Looking forward to the weekend, sleep a whole bunch I mean, it's all these things, you're building in the walls you become.
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The cowardly lion man, you're a lion in there, but you become cowardly is just disguised is comfort.
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I'll just deal with that another day.
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Alright, boom.
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No confront.
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Let me hear about something courageous that you did today.
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Love to hear from you on that.
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You can go, you can send me a text message.
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If you're listening to this on the podcast, there's a button you can hit shoot me a text.
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Let me know what that was.
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Share it with me on your socials.
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Or you can go to my website.
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Marsh Buice that's my name.
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M a R S H B U I C E in the bottom.
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Right.
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Is a mic.
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And you can leave me a voice message there.
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Love to hear from you.
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All right.
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Let's get out of here.
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Keep it simple.
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Keep.
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It moving.
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Never settle.
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Be courageous peace.
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All right.
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3, 2, 1.
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Let's get it.
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As the timer goes.
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Welcome back to the show.
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This is what your problem.
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I'm your host, Marsh Buice if this the first time we've met.
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Welcome aboard.
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I'm gonna get you in, get you out and get you on with your life.
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Have you been here at time or 10?
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Welcome back.
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And here on this show,, we confront.
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The three universal problems in our life.
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Adversity, uncertainty and complacency.
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And I hope by listening to these episodes that you'll develop the skillset.
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To handle the adversity, embrace the uncertainty and never settle.
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Again.
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Those skills you have within you just got to ignite them.
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You got to work a more.
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And they all start with letter C it's only five of them.
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Communication curiosity, creativity, continuous learning and action.
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And courageous confrontation.
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I used to say productive confrontation, but I'm going to change it.
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And this is what I'm bringing this episode about.
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And it's the courage.
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To confront.
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The confrontation has such a negative.
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First.
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I mean, the minute you hear.
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The word confrontation, I'm going to confront some things it's immediately negative.
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It's like that person.
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That's just got a bad reputation in town.
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As soon as you hear their name and be like, oh no, I don't want nothing to do with them.
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That's how we look at confrontation.
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But you have to look at productive confrontation.
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Is it's the key to your life.
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It's the key to everything.
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When you practice.
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Confronting things.
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And that's what, and I'm, I help you with that today when you practice confronting some things, it is going to develop your curiosity, your creativity.
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It's going to open up more connections for you.
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Collaboration's opportunities.
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And it leads to a more colorful life.
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Your life has become dull.
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Because you've become more of a coward.
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And I'm not saying that you're wimpy.
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I'm saying that.
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When I say the word coward.
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Cowardness is actually disguised by another word.
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It's disguised as comfort.
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And so in an effort.
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To have a more comfortable life.
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We do less and less and less.
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When actually the key.
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To a more comfortable life.
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Is to confront more and more and more.
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That is the true comfort.
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Because that is going to open up more connections.
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That is going to open you up to more.
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Opportunities.
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And so you're, the risk is safe.
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Safe has risk.
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And so every day, if you think about it, you're being a little more safe.
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Like you get to these levels of competence.
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And then.
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You start regressing back.
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But it's so subtle.
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And you become a little more comfortable, more and more each day.
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And you begin to chase that.
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And when I say chase it, it's more so that you're accepting.
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Comfort.
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And you begin to relax.
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And the things that once scared you.
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You kind of begin to accept and you shrink into this thing.
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And you could be in this point in your life where you're looking at things, you're like, wait a minute.
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And that's a good thing.
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Because you're awakening to the fact that.
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I'm not being courageous anymore.
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And I'm not talking about burning building kind of courage.
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Firefighters, or aren't born firefighters.
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They're trained.
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Into.
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Practicing courage without even thinking.
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That's just a task.
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They do.
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So what if you approached your, your days?
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Becoming more courageous.
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And these are small acts, man.
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That's, what's beautiful about this.
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There are small, often low consequential . But there.
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It's going to be more healthy for you.
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I might explain that in a minute.
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And it's going to set you off.
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To have a bigger, better, more colorful life who doesn't want that.
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You don't have to wait for life to ultimately test you to see what you're made of you.
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Don't.
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If you practice.
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These small acts of courage every day, the AOC.
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If you, if you, if you embrace just taking these small acts of courage every day, You're going to be more RFA.
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You're going to be more ready for anything.
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And because you're developing this skillset.
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And so the small acts of courage every day, Are the phone calls that you need to make?
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Whether it's a phone call that you need to have a conversation with or if it's phone calls in your profession, stop by hiding behind the email.
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Stop hiding behind a text message.
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Just confront.
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Just pick up the phone and, and just do it.
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The employer that you need to call, call them.
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Stop.
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You know, Hey, I was wondering if you guys made a decision yet now show up.
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Talk to him.
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Hey, I put in an application.
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I just wanted you to put a name with a face.
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What's the worst that can happen.
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We already filled the position.
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And then that would open up some curiosity.
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So that way you could get a better feel.
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And because you're asking those questions, they may say, you know what, I have something that's coming up or I have something at another store.
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Boom.
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But it's because you confronted those things.
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That debt you need the tackle, confront it, set your timer for 15 minutes and begin to at least look at it.
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It ain't going to go away.
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And you just swirling around in your head thinking that, oh, I'll get to a man.
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I would just keep playing this lottery.
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No confront.
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It's these small acts.
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And when the timer goes off in 15 minutes, go off and go do whatever else that you need to do.
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But the small acts of courage every single day, man.
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This is what's going to just build you up.
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And this courage is a skillset.
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It's a life skill.
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That's why it's part of the five CS communication, curiosity, creativity.
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Continuous learning.
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And courageous confrontation and you build this courage.
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And this is going to become a way of life for you.
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As well, see, it's the small pauses in your life.
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That lead to huge regrets over time.
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That little points of hesitation and because it's just a slight hesitation, it doesn't seem like much, but see, as you keep doing that, It becomes a way of life.
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It becomes something that gets easier to do.
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If you think about it, the things that you really regret are the things that you didn't do more so than the things that you did do.
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How will you learn?
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How will you grow?
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How will you.
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Connect more.
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How will you seize more opportunities?
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It's through one key hole.
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Courageous confrontation.
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So practice.
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A couple of ways to do this.
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Mel Robbins, she wrote a whole book about the five second rule and basically.
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If you don't want to buy the book, it's a great book.
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But if you don't want to buy the book, count from five to one before you even get to one, boom, do the damn thing.
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I think of it.
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I have a mental image of a bandaid.
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Just rip the bandaid off.
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I even tell customers, look, just make a decision, rip the bandaid off and whatever the decision is, just roll with it.
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But that's what you have to do when I feel that hesitation, that, that hesitation right there is opportunity on the other side is connections on the other side is a more colorful life on the other side.
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It's everything.
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It literally is everything.
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And you're going to find when you, when you just start practicing the small acts of courage, this courageous confrontation, when you feel that hesitation, boom, do it because you're going to find.
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Number one, it wasn't so bad.
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It wasn't even what you thought.
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Number two, the answer that you got opens up whole new connections opens up a whole nother.
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Uh, connections.
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Opportunities.
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It just, it just opens up the doorway and maybe not in that one moment, but when this becomes a way of life, Then it's, I'm telling you.
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All the dots are going to connect some kind of way.
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It's never for, for nothing.
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It's all going to connect, but this act that you took right now may build you up for other things.
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And then five years from now, because this is just becomes a way of life.
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That thing that you did.
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Five years ago.
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Boom.
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You're like, God.
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I didn't know where it was going to lead.
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Right then that dot connected five years back, 60 months later, I be damned.
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And that's what you need, man.
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You need some more IB damn moments.
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The people who are fearless in his life.
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Aren't just fearless.
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They just confront faster and confront more.
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That's the only difference between you and them.
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They're just willing to confront more.
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And confront faster and they don't need all this plan and they just like, wow, fuck it.
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And they go, and sometimes, you know, that was triggered a long time ago.
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I know some of my, I know my confrontation was triggered when I was at rock bottom.
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I had nothing else to lose.
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And sometimes when you have nothing to lose, when you have everything to gain, and so you don't have to wait for rock bottom moments, but you can kind of find your rock bottom moments or put your back against the wall every single day.
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And just when you feel that hesitation dude, You just confront it.
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And this just becomes, it's kind of like the ugly dude who picks up all the hot chicks at the club and you're like, dude, how's he do it?
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He just confronts more.
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He just asked more.
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That's the only difference.
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So he does this, that, and it just becomes a way of life.
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He gets used to the rejection it, and so it was just, it's just part of it.
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It's just a numbers game.
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You want better numbers in life?
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You want more opportunities?
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You want more connections?
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You wish you had more, you wish there was more spice to life.
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Got to confront and the way to do it.
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Is to practice it every single day.
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Every moment you get.
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I want you to just boom.
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Do it.
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It takes seconds and you're going to find man.
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That it's just going to, and it's going to release the tension in your life because you just, you don't let these things build up.
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Is that buildup, man, this is the thing that leads you to eat more, workout, less, drink more.
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Looking forward to the weekend, sleep a whole bunch I mean, it's all these things, you're building in the walls you become.
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The cowardly lion man, you're a lion in there, but you become cowardly is just disguised is comfort.
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I'll just deal with that another day.
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Alright, boom.
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No confront.
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Let me hear about something courageous that you did today.
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Love to hear from you on that.
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You can go, you can send me a text message.
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If you're listening to this on the podcast, there's a button you can hit shoot me a text.
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Let me know what that was.
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Share it with me on your socials.
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Or you can go to my website.
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Marsh Buice that's my name.
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M a R S H B U I C E in the bottom.
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Right.
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Is a mic.
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And you can leave me a voice message there.
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Love to hear from you.
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All right.
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Let's get out of here.
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Keep it simple.
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Keep.
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It moving.
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Never settle.
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Be courageous peace.