Aug. 1, 2024
850. "Do You Fear Death?"
Why fear death if you FULLY experience living?
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Transcript
WEBVTT
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A little over an hour into Lex Friedman's conversation with actor, Kevin Spacey.
00:00:06.040 --> 00:00:08.710
Lex asked him a profound question.
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Do you fear death?
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Spacey responded.
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Yes, I do fear death.
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And he feared death specifically because he said there's no way out.
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There's no answer.
00:00:25.849 --> 00:00:28.489
And that statement gave me great pause.
00:00:29.719 --> 00:00:31.519
To reflect on the question.
00:00:32.909 --> 00:00:34.979
Death, the big D word.
00:00:35.729 --> 00:00:36.750
Is a topic.
00:00:38.100 --> 00:00:39.448
That we often avoid.
00:00:40.198 --> 00:00:44.399
Even when someone dies, we say, Sorry for their passing.
00:00:44.429 --> 00:00:45.509
They're no longer here.
00:00:46.469 --> 00:00:47.850
So we glaze over it.
00:00:48.299 --> 00:00:50.039
Instead of saying the word death.
00:00:51.539 --> 00:00:52.018
But.
00:00:53.488 --> 00:00:55.018
In my reflection this morning.
00:00:55.378 --> 00:00:56.609
Uh, truly believe.
00:00:57.929 --> 00:00:59.310
That to fully live.
00:01:01.859 --> 00:01:03.420
We must reflect on death.
00:01:05.560 --> 00:01:07.480
And Spacey's words made me question.
00:01:09.010 --> 00:01:12.760
Do we fear death because we haven't fully experienced living.
00:01:14.260 --> 00:01:16.569
I mean, if I'm always future-focused.
00:01:16.989 --> 00:01:28.269
If I'm always trying to achieve the next milestone, if I'm always trying to climb the next rung I risk becoming oblivious to the fact that I'm racing toward.
00:01:28.840 --> 00:01:29.950
My eminent death.
00:01:30.939 --> 00:01:32.500
And when I reached that point.
00:01:32.920 --> 00:01:34.120
As we all will.
00:01:35.219 --> 00:01:36.780
I'll realize that in death.
00:01:37.888 --> 00:01:38.998
There is no answer.
00:01:39.808 --> 00:01:40.858
There is no way out.
00:01:43.168 --> 00:01:44.879
And while this thought can be.
00:01:45.569 --> 00:01:46.349
Frightening.
00:01:49.108 --> 00:01:51.448
It can also be exhilarating for the present moment.
00:01:53.019 --> 00:01:54.429
The future is uncertain.
00:01:56.259 --> 00:01:57.489
But death has definite.
00:01:59.009 --> 00:02:02.899
Tolstoy wrote the meaning of life can not be determined by its suffering.
00:02:03.588 --> 00:02:04.728
It's longevity.
00:02:05.418 --> 00:02:06.649
Or short span.
00:02:08.569 --> 00:02:12.919
The meaning of life comes from striving for spiritual perfection.
00:02:13.449 --> 00:02:16.718
And spiritual in this context, isn't about religion.
00:02:17.829 --> 00:02:22.628
But more so about how it relates and affects the human spirit and soul.
00:02:23.588 --> 00:02:26.498
As opposed to material or physical things.
00:02:27.128 --> 00:02:28.239
Just think about that.
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Spiritual perfection.
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Has got nothing to do.
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With material or physical things.
00:02:36.709 --> 00:02:38.359
It's got everything to do.
00:02:39.378 --> 00:02:40.758
With the human spirit.
00:02:41.568 --> 00:02:42.408
And the soul.
00:02:43.218 --> 00:02:47.658
Tolstoy goes on to write, that understanding the meaning of life answers the questions.
00:02:48.139 --> 00:02:48.949
Who am I.
00:02:49.818 --> 00:02:50.838
What am I.
00:02:51.859 --> 00:02:53.538
And what can I expect in life?
00:02:55.139 --> 00:02:57.359
And he said the most important question to answer.
00:02:58.739 --> 00:03:00.118
Is what am I.
00:03:01.209 --> 00:03:06.038
And if you know the answer to that, You'll also know what to do.
00:03:06.848 --> 00:03:07.808
And what to expect.
00:03:08.979 --> 00:03:13.088
But fully experiencing life and embracing the beauty and boldness of each day.
00:03:14.588 --> 00:03:17.199
I believe that we can live without fearing the end.
00:03:18.618 --> 00:03:20.748
There will be no unanswered questions.
00:03:21.558 --> 00:03:22.519
Because.
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Because you live your answers.
00:03:25.788 --> 00:03:26.449
Every day.
00:03:27.889 --> 00:03:30.769
Life is a series of evolutions, not changes.
00:03:31.429 --> 00:03:33.288
It's a series of contrast.
00:03:35.248 --> 00:03:37.769
I mean, why label days is good or bad?
00:03:38.729 --> 00:03:43.498
Instead, why not just see them as opportunities to learn, to grow.
00:03:43.829 --> 00:03:45.868
And wrestle with life's challenges.
00:03:46.618 --> 00:03:49.079
Some days require payments toward achievements.
00:03:49.769 --> 00:03:52.679
And other days we pause and reflect.
00:03:53.308 --> 00:03:54.449
With gratitude.
00:03:55.709 --> 00:03:57.179
That our hard work paid off.
00:03:58.829 --> 00:04:00.748
The Bible says, count it all as joy.
00:04:01.378 --> 00:04:02.729
And many people.
00:04:03.519 --> 00:04:04.989
Totally missed that command.
00:04:06.169 --> 00:04:12.199
Most people focus on the word joy and think that it doesn't apply to their lives because of their struggles.
00:04:13.639 --> 00:04:14.538
But they miss.
00:04:15.229 --> 00:04:16.459
The most important word.
00:04:17.269 --> 00:04:17.809
Count.
00:04:18.769 --> 00:04:19.939
Counted all joy.
00:04:20.809 --> 00:04:22.519
See when you count something.
00:04:23.509 --> 00:04:24.949
You've gotta be specific.
00:04:25.579 --> 00:04:26.449
Deliberate.
00:04:26.928 --> 00:04:27.858
And intentional.
00:04:28.488 --> 00:04:30.918
The Bible, doesn't say rounded off his joy.
00:04:31.158 --> 00:04:34.488
If I asked you to count the books that are on my shelf right now.
00:04:36.048 --> 00:04:37.399
You'd have to be specific.
00:04:37.668 --> 00:04:38.899
You'd have to be deliberate.
00:04:39.228 --> 00:04:40.459
Everything in life.
00:04:41.418 --> 00:04:42.408
Successfully.
00:04:43.338 --> 00:04:44.298
His numbers driven.
00:04:44.749 --> 00:04:45.798
It's all count.
00:04:47.598 --> 00:04:49.879
And so When you count it all as joy.
00:04:50.658 --> 00:04:52.908
You're counting you're specific in this day.
00:04:52.908 --> 00:04:54.798
You're fully present in this day.
00:04:55.459 --> 00:04:56.269
And the joy.
00:04:57.588 --> 00:04:59.119
As it relates to happiness.
00:04:59.598 --> 00:05:00.769
You have to remember.
00:05:02.088 --> 00:05:03.829
That happiness is not a feeling.
00:05:04.309 --> 00:05:06.319
Happiness is not a destination.
00:05:07.098 --> 00:05:07.908
It's a direction.
00:05:09.009 --> 00:05:13.478
And so when I count every day means that a fully experienced each day.
00:05:14.348 --> 00:05:16.178
And recognize it as a gift.
00:05:18.038 --> 00:05:19.598
Some days require effort.
00:05:20.889 --> 00:05:23.559
While other days rewards for our perseverance.
00:05:25.749 --> 00:05:27.848
The goal for you is to just keep playing the game.
00:05:28.988 --> 00:05:30.759
Giving your full effort each day.
00:05:31.509 --> 00:05:33.399
Iterating evolving.
00:05:34.550 --> 00:05:40.910
And moving from one season of life to the next, like swinging from one rung of the monkey bars to the next.
00:05:43.370 --> 00:05:47.930
And if I'm fully experiencing today, And living in the present.
00:05:49.110 --> 00:05:50.519
I don't need to worry about dying.
00:05:52.980 --> 00:05:53.790
Keep it simple.
00:05:53.819 --> 00:05:54.600
Keep it moving.
00:05:54.629 --> 00:05:55.470
Never settle.
00:05:55.529 --> 00:05:56.930
Stay tough peace
00:00:00.000 --> 00:00:04.620
A little over an hour into Lex Friedman's conversation with actor, Kevin Spacey.
00:00:06.040 --> 00:00:08.710
Lex asked him a profound question.
00:00:10.028 --> 00:00:11.259
Do you fear death?
00:00:12.558 --> 00:00:13.548
Spacey responded.
00:00:13.548 --> 00:00:14.839
Yes, I do fear death.
00:00:16.039 --> 00:00:21.199
And he feared death specifically because he said there's no way out.
00:00:22.039 --> 00:00:23.178
There's no answer.
00:00:25.849 --> 00:00:28.489
And that statement gave me great pause.
00:00:29.719 --> 00:00:31.519
To reflect on the question.
00:00:32.909 --> 00:00:34.979
Death, the big D word.
00:00:35.729 --> 00:00:36.750
Is a topic.
00:00:38.100 --> 00:00:39.448
That we often avoid.
00:00:40.198 --> 00:00:44.399
Even when someone dies, we say, Sorry for their passing.
00:00:44.429 --> 00:00:45.509
They're no longer here.
00:00:46.469 --> 00:00:47.850
So we glaze over it.
00:00:48.299 --> 00:00:50.039
Instead of saying the word death.
00:00:51.539 --> 00:00:52.018
But.
00:00:53.488 --> 00:00:55.018
In my reflection this morning.
00:00:55.378 --> 00:00:56.609
Uh, truly believe.
00:00:57.929 --> 00:00:59.310
That to fully live.
00:01:01.859 --> 00:01:03.420
We must reflect on death.
00:01:05.560 --> 00:01:07.480
And Spacey's words made me question.
00:01:09.010 --> 00:01:12.760
Do we fear death because we haven't fully experienced living.
00:01:14.260 --> 00:01:16.569
I mean, if I'm always future-focused.
00:01:16.989 --> 00:01:28.269
If I'm always trying to achieve the next milestone, if I'm always trying to climb the next rung I risk becoming oblivious to the fact that I'm racing toward.
00:01:28.840 --> 00:01:29.950
My eminent death.
00:01:30.939 --> 00:01:32.500
And when I reached that point.
00:01:32.920 --> 00:01:34.120
As we all will.
00:01:35.219 --> 00:01:36.780
I'll realize that in death.
00:01:37.888 --> 00:01:38.998
There is no answer.
00:01:39.808 --> 00:01:40.858
There is no way out.
00:01:43.168 --> 00:01:44.879
And while this thought can be.
00:01:45.569 --> 00:01:46.349
Frightening.
00:01:49.108 --> 00:01:51.448
It can also be exhilarating for the present moment.
00:01:53.019 --> 00:01:54.429
The future is uncertain.
00:01:56.259 --> 00:01:57.489
But death has definite.
00:01:59.009 --> 00:02:02.899
Tolstoy wrote the meaning of life can not be determined by its suffering.
00:02:03.588 --> 00:02:04.728
It's longevity.
00:02:05.418 --> 00:02:06.649
Or short span.
00:02:08.569 --> 00:02:12.919
The meaning of life comes from striving for spiritual perfection.
00:02:13.449 --> 00:02:16.718
And spiritual in this context, isn't about religion.
00:02:17.829 --> 00:02:22.628
But more so about how it relates and affects the human spirit and soul.
00:02:23.588 --> 00:02:26.498
As opposed to material or physical things.
00:02:27.128 --> 00:02:28.239
Just think about that.
00:02:29.088 --> 00:02:30.739
Spiritual perfection.
00:02:31.639 --> 00:02:33.199
Has got nothing to do.
00:02:34.218 --> 00:02:36.348
With material or physical things.
00:02:36.709 --> 00:02:38.359
It's got everything to do.
00:02:39.378 --> 00:02:40.758
With the human spirit.
00:02:41.568 --> 00:02:42.408
And the soul.
00:02:43.218 --> 00:02:47.658
Tolstoy goes on to write, that understanding the meaning of life answers the questions.
00:02:48.139 --> 00:02:48.949
Who am I.
00:02:49.818 --> 00:02:50.838
What am I.
00:02:51.859 --> 00:02:53.538
And what can I expect in life?
00:02:55.139 --> 00:02:57.359
And he said the most important question to answer.
00:02:58.739 --> 00:03:00.118
Is what am I.
00:03:01.209 --> 00:03:06.038
And if you know the answer to that, You'll also know what to do.
00:03:06.848 --> 00:03:07.808
And what to expect.
00:03:08.979 --> 00:03:13.088
But fully experiencing life and embracing the beauty and boldness of each day.
00:03:14.588 --> 00:03:17.199
I believe that we can live without fearing the end.
00:03:18.618 --> 00:03:20.748
There will be no unanswered questions.
00:03:21.558 --> 00:03:22.519
Because.
00:03:23.479 --> 00:03:25.128
Because you live your answers.
00:03:25.788 --> 00:03:26.449
Every day.
00:03:27.889 --> 00:03:30.769
Life is a series of evolutions, not changes.
00:03:31.429 --> 00:03:33.288
It's a series of contrast.
00:03:35.248 --> 00:03:37.769
I mean, why label days is good or bad?
00:03:38.729 --> 00:03:43.498
Instead, why not just see them as opportunities to learn, to grow.
00:03:43.829 --> 00:03:45.868
And wrestle with life's challenges.
00:03:46.618 --> 00:03:49.079
Some days require payments toward achievements.
00:03:49.769 --> 00:03:52.679
And other days we pause and reflect.
00:03:53.308 --> 00:03:54.449
With gratitude.
00:03:55.709 --> 00:03:57.179
That our hard work paid off.
00:03:58.829 --> 00:04:00.748
The Bible says, count it all as joy.
00:04:01.378 --> 00:04:02.729
And many people.
00:04:03.519 --> 00:04:04.989
Totally missed that command.
00:04:06.169 --> 00:04:12.199
Most people focus on the word joy and think that it doesn't apply to their lives because of their struggles.
00:04:13.639 --> 00:04:14.538
But they miss.
00:04:15.229 --> 00:04:16.459
The most important word.
00:04:17.269 --> 00:04:17.809
Count.
00:04:18.769 --> 00:04:19.939
Counted all joy.
00:04:20.809 --> 00:04:22.519
See when you count something.
00:04:23.509 --> 00:04:24.949
You've gotta be specific.
00:04:25.579 --> 00:04:26.449
Deliberate.
00:04:26.928 --> 00:04:27.858
And intentional.
00:04:28.488 --> 00:04:30.918
The Bible, doesn't say rounded off his joy.
00:04:31.158 --> 00:04:34.488
If I asked you to count the books that are on my shelf right now.
00:04:36.048 --> 00:04:37.399
You'd have to be specific.
00:04:37.668 --> 00:04:38.899
You'd have to be deliberate.
00:04:39.228 --> 00:04:40.459
Everything in life.
00:04:41.418 --> 00:04:42.408
Successfully.
00:04:43.338 --> 00:04:44.298
His numbers driven.
00:04:44.749 --> 00:04:45.798
It's all count.
00:04:47.598 --> 00:04:49.879
And so When you count it all as joy.
00:04:50.658 --> 00:04:52.908
You're counting you're specific in this day.
00:04:52.908 --> 00:04:54.798
You're fully present in this day.
00:04:55.459 --> 00:04:56.269
And the joy.
00:04:57.588 --> 00:04:59.119
As it relates to happiness.
00:04:59.598 --> 00:05:00.769
You have to remember.
00:05:02.088 --> 00:05:03.829
That happiness is not a feeling.
00:05:04.309 --> 00:05:06.319
Happiness is not a destination.
00:05:07.098 --> 00:05:07.908
It's a direction.
00:05:09.009 --> 00:05:13.478
And so when I count every day means that a fully experienced each day.
00:05:14.348 --> 00:05:16.178
And recognize it as a gift.
00:05:18.038 --> 00:05:19.598
Some days require effort.
00:05:20.889 --> 00:05:23.559
While other days rewards for our perseverance.
00:05:25.749 --> 00:05:27.848
The goal for you is to just keep playing the game.
00:05:28.988 --> 00:05:30.759
Giving your full effort each day.
00:05:31.509 --> 00:05:33.399
Iterating evolving.
00:05:34.550 --> 00:05:40.910
And moving from one season of life to the next, like swinging from one rung of the monkey bars to the next.
00:05:43.370 --> 00:05:47.930
And if I'm fully experiencing today, And living in the present.
00:05:49.110 --> 00:05:50.519
I don't need to worry about dying.
00:05:52.980 --> 00:05:53.790
Keep it simple.
00:05:53.819 --> 00:05:54.600
Keep it moving.
00:05:54.629 --> 00:05:55.470
Never settle.
00:05:55.529 --> 00:05:56.930
Stay tough peace