830. Small Steps = Big Payoffs.

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I am fond of saying how you do the smalls.

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Is how you do the alls.

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Because if you do the small things, They will give you the confidence.

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To do big things.

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See you don't first learn how to walk a tight rope.

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tied between two skyscrapers.

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You start off by walking across a tight rope.

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Just a few feet off the ground.

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And as your competency and your skillset increase.

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Then you raise the rope.

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A little bit higher.

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The same is true for your confidence.

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Confidence.

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Is comprised of five things.

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What I call the five CS.

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Confidence is comprised of communication, curiosity, creativity, continuous learning, and action.

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And productive confrontation.

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These are small everyday acts.

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That you can take.

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That create confidence.

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And the more you practice.

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Communication curiosity, creativity, continuous learning, and action and productive confrontation.

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The easier it becomes.

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At that level.

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And through consistency.

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Your intensity will rise.

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'cause see you keep coming back to it.

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It becomes more familiar.

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And as it becomes more familiar.

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You just raise.

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You're tight rope, your confidence rope . A little bit higher each time.

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It all starts with a process.

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And it's a few simple things that you can do repeatedly.

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That nudge you out of your comfort zone every day.

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And they're all around you, man.

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You just don't take stock in it.

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You probably avoid it.

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And because it doesn't seem like it matters much.

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You just give it no consideration, no thought.

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And now I want to flip that whole process upside down.

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And I want you to be aware of it.

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And when you feel that slight hesitation, that slight pullback.

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Give it no thought.

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It's like a bandaid man.

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Rip it off.

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Do it.

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If it's something that you got to communicate, it's something that you can be curious about.

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If it's something that you can express your curiosity about or creativity.

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Or it's a, it's a way for you to learn.

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Even if you fall on your face, even if you look stupid, Um, boom, do it.

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Or is this something I got to confront in productive confrontation?

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Confrontation has such a bad rap.

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It's a good thing.

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Just confront.

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And that way it doesn't build up.

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to big consequences.

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These little steps.

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Build up.

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To become big payoffs.

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And these are small acts every day.

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It's waking up early enough.

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Just budgeting your time.

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Some of you are early morning people.

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I love my wife and I were just talking about this the other day.

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We're completely opposite.

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She's a late night person.

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I'm an early morning person.

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She grunts and groans in the morning to get up and open the gym.

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00 AM.

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I'm bright eyed and bushy tail.

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But in the evening.

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00 PM.

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She's just hitting her stride.

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But for me, I'm like a bobblehead baby, man.

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I can barely keep my eyelids open.

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So back to my point, it's waking up creating the confidence.

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Is holding commitments to yourself.

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It's confronting the fact that I got to wake up.

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Early enough.

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Before work.

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To write to read.

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To work out.

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Take care of me.

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Broaden my horizon and that really hits several things.

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The creativity side of it.

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You're writing the communication is through writing.

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The reading, interpreting it, applying it to your life.

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That's confrontation.

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That's communication.

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It's creativity.

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It's continuous learning and action.

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So you see these things.

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Creating your confidence.

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Is taking advantage of the small things.

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And following up.

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With.

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Leads that you've gotten.

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The last 50 of them, you can't get anybody on the phone.

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As a matter of fact, they hang up on you.

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Every day, man, you just keep doing it are to asking that customer to buy from you.

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Even though from the first time you met them, the minute you shook hands with him and he said, I'm not buying today.

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yet you ask them to buy anyway.

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See at the moment.

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When they get out of the car.

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Are you first meet him?

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You haven't earned.

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The right to ask them to buy.

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But now that you've done your part.

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And you've addressed their needs.

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You've earned the right.

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To ask them to buy.

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From you.

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Because the level of service.

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And the quality of the product that you offer.

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And see it's that natural pull back.

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Boom.

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Is that productive confrontation?

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It's through communication.

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I pushed myself that slight hesitation.

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Little steps.

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Equal big payoffs.

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Another example of creating your confidence.

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The slight hesitations.

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Asking someone for their phone number.

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I can't tell you how many times.

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People just don't ask for the number.

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You just assume it's going to organically and that person walks out of your life and you never see them again.

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I don't want to have any regrets.

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And the way to have a fulfilling life.

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And less regretful life.

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Is to seize the small acts of confidence every day, man.

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Another way of creating confidence.

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And seizing small moments.

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Instead of filling out the application on indeed.

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And hoping.

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Out of hundreds.

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That come across the recruiter's desk.

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How the hell is yours going to stand out?

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I'll tell you how it will stand out.

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You show up.

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And say I submitted an application on indeed, but I wanted to come by and introduce myself in person.

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What's the worst that can happen, dude.

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You just separated yourself from everybody.

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You know what.

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Nobody does that.

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You want an unfair advantage show up?

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Show up, make sure they put a name with a face.

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Bring that resume with you too, while you're at it.

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Put your picture on the resume.

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So they see what you look like.

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Boom.

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It separates everything.

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See, these are small acts.

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These are things that we just don't even think about.

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But I want you to start thinking about.

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Because little steps, equal big payoffs.

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Creating confidence is saying no.

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To apps and alcohol.

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Because you're trying to create a better lifestyle.

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You've had plenty of days.

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Where you've ordered multiple appetizers and many rounds of margaritas.

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I got to say no right now, not in that season.

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Got to get my life back in order.

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Little steps.

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Equal big payoffs.

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What am I forgetting?

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What else can I add to the list?

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Write those down.

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Let me know what they are tag me.

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DM me.

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Send me your list.

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In short.

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You're never going to be confident enough to do big things.

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If you never first earned your confidence.

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To do the seemingly small everyday things.

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Every day is ripe.

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With the small moments.

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To practice confidence.

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It's what they are.

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There's small moments that you get a chance to practice the confidence.

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And here's, what's beautiful about it because they're small.

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You get a chance to practice your confidence.

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Without.

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Going down the shitter.

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You won't bottom out in life with these small everyday acts.

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So you get to practice your confidence.

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With very low consequence.

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It's the tight rope.

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Just a few feet off the ground.

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And as you practice these small acts.

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Of communicating more.

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Of expressing your creativity.

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And following the path of curiosity.

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And drawing in.

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Another way of learning and confronting productively.

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That conversation.

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or the conversation you're having in your head.

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Of of doubt.

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Of regret.

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Boom, you go.

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There are such low consequence that you can do them.

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And.

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Even if they don't seem to work out, I don't even say fail.

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Even if they don't seem to work out.

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A.

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You smashed past that fear point.

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And you feel better on the other side.

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And you recycle it.

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You learn from it.

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You discover what worked, what didn't instead of making assumptions.

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And you renew it.

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And you do it again.

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But see, each time you do this.

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start at low level today.

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I'm telling you, man, it's going to seem like, it seems like.

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It's no big deal.

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Little steps.

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Equal bay pay offs.

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So these small things.

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I see every time that wisp.

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It's another level might be a micro.

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Inch.

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But it's another level.

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And I get a little bit more confident and I get a little bit more confident.

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And I become a little more bold.

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That's what boldness is, man.

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It's the courage.

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It's the confidence.

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To say.

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I can do this.

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Or I'm going to do this.

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And I'm going to be all right.

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Regardless, win, lose, or draw.

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I'll be just fine.

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You're living proof.

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That you've lived through everything so far, the worst moments in your life.

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The breakups.

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The break offs.

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The low watermarks, the dark days.

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You're still here.

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You're living proof.

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Now.

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Get something for those things.

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Practice your confidence.

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And in doing so you'll capture more confidence.

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And you'll become unstoppable.

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Alright, thanks for sharing.

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Today's episode help.

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Get the word out.

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Remember, keep it simple.

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Keep it moving.

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Never settle.

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Stay tough peace